Keys to Getting Over a Break-up

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~author unknown

Someone recently asked me:

How do you get over a break-up?

Following is the answer that may help you too:

When a relationship ends, we experience all kinds of feelings of loss. Maybe we lost our best friend and lover, someone we truly love, someone we had future plans and dreams with. It takes time to heal from a break-up. It’s a process of letting to. Letting go is sometimes difficult. But regardless of why the relationship ended, there are some things we can do to help us move forward. We can ask ourselves:

What am I holding on to? If it’s anger, we can work on forgiveness. If we’re holding on to disappointed hopes, we can set new goals for ourselves.

What is worth holding on to? Anything that we have learned that can help us to grow and be better is worth holding on to. We also have memories we can cherish of the love shared and good times together.

Finally, when we truly want nothing but the best for the other person, we are free to find the best in ourselves.


There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that letting go is not the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new life. ~author unknown


We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us. ~Joseph Campbell


You never leave someone behind, you take a part of them with you and leave a part of yourself behind. ~author unknown